Life Coaching Techniques to Empower Math Teachers (Because Y’all Deserve Support, Too!)

Teaching Math Shouldn’t Feel Like An Extreme Sport!

Let’s be real—teaching math can feel like running a marathon, solving a Rubik’s cube, and herding cats all at once. Between helping students who struggle with basic facts, managing math anxiety (theirs AND yours), and dealing with curriculum demands, it’s easy to feel like you’re drowning in numbers.

But here’s the thing—just like our students need support, so do we. Imagine having simple, practical ways to shift your mindset, build your confidence, and actually enjoy teaching math (without the daily existential crisis).

That’s where life coaching techniques come in. Let’s break it down in a way that’s real, doable, and won’t require an extra five hours of PD.

Reframe Your Math Teacher Identity

We all have an internal script about math. Some of us loved it as kids, while others still get war flashbacks from long division. The way you think about math affects how you teach it—whether you realize it or not.

How to Do It:

  • Notice Your Own Math Story – Were you the kid who crushed multiplication, or did math always feel like a mystery? Or, like a labyrinth, you can’t make your way out of. Recognizing your past experiences helps you rewrite the narrative.
  • Flip the Script – Instead of saying, “I’m not a math person,” try: “I’m learning how to make math work for me and my students.”
  • Lead with Curiosity – Approach math with a growth mindset, just like we tell our students. Instead of “Ugh, fractions (the dreaded F word)” say, “Okay, how can I make this make sense?”

Manage the Overwhelm (Because You Can’t Pour from an Empty Cup)

If teaching math makes you feel like you’re juggling flaming swords, you’re not alone. The workload is real, but burnout isn’t a badge of honor—it’s a warning sign.

How to Do It:

  • Set Boundaries – Just because math planning could take forever doesn’t mean it should. Set a time limit and work within it. 
  • Streamline Your Resources – Find one or two go-to resources and stop the endless Pinterest or TPT scrolling. Analysis paralysis is real!
  • Give Yourself Grace – Not every lesson will be a home run, and that’s okay. Kids learn from imperfect moments, too.

If your lesson flops, just remember: Even Beyoncé has bad concert nights. Actually I don’t think that’s true LOL. But you get my drift. The key is to keep showing up like a boss.

Build Confidence in Your Math Teaching (Even If You’ve Always Felt “Okay-ish” at It)

Confidence isn’t about knowing all the answers—it’s about being willing to figure things out alongside your students.

How to Do It:

  • Use Flexible Strategies – Instead of focusing on one “right way,” explore different problem-solving approaches.
  • Ask Yourself- (This is one of the most important questions we could ask ourselves) “Would I Want to Be a Student in My Own Class?” – If the answer is “Uhhh, maybe?” then shift your lessons to be more engaging and hands-on.
  • Normalize Mistakes – Show students that even adults make math errors and recover. It’s not about perfection—it’s about progress.

Confidence hack: Say, “Oooooh, interesting mistake. Let’s figure this out.” Works every time. Even if you’re internally screaming.

Shift from Surviving to Thriving

Teaching math isn’t just about getting through the day—it’s about creating a classroom where you AND your students feel empowered.

How to Do It:

  • Make Math Fun for YOU – Play around with games, visuals, and creative activities that make teaching math feel less like a chore and more like an adventure.
  • In The Clurb We Are All Fam – Whether it’s an online community, a teacher friend, or a math coach, surround yourself with people who uplift your teaching.
  • Celebrate Small Wins – If a student finally gets fractions, take the win! If you tried a new strategy and it kinda worked, take the win!

If no one else claps for you, clap for YOURSELF. “Look at me out here, making math make sense. I deserve a snack.”

Create a Personal Math Growth Plan (Because We’re Always Learning, Too!)

We tell students to have a growth mindset, but what about us? Having a plan for YOUR math growth helps you feel more in control.

How to Do It:

  • Pick ONE thing to get better at this month. Maybe it’s number talks, using math literature lessons, or incorporating more visuals.
  • Try it out, reflect, and tweak as needed. No pressure. No guilt.
  • Keep a “Math Wins” journal—write down one success per week. When things get tough, look back at how far you’ve come.


Growth mindset isn’t just for kids. You wouldn’t tell a student, “Wow, you suck at math, and you always will.” So don’t say it to yourself either!

Math Struggles Ain’t Just About Numbers

Let’s be B.F.F.R—math can stress kids out. You’ve seen it: the frozen-in-place stare, the pencil tapping like it’s sending an SOS, or the classic “I CAN’T DO THIS!” meltdown before even trying. But here’s the thing—most of the time, their struggle isn’t about numbers. It’s about mindset.

What if we borrowed some life coaching techniques to help our students not just survive math but actually thrive in it? Let’s break it down into simple, practical ways you can empower your students without turning into a full-blown therapist.

 Reframe the Narrative (A.K.A. Flip the Script on “I’m Bad at Math”)

Ever notice how kids say “I’m bad at math” like it’s their official personality trait? That belief is holding them back more than any tricky word problem ever could.

How to Do It:

  • When a student says, “I suck at math,” respond with: “You’re still learning. Let’s find a way that makes sense to you.”
  • Introduce the Power of Yet: “You don’t get it… yet. But your brain is working on it!”
  • Share stories of people who struggled with math and overcame it (bonus points if you can find famous athletes, musicians, or influencers).

Remind them that they once thought tying their shoes was impossible, and look at them now—shoe-tying pros. Math is just another skill that takes practice.

Teach Emotional Regulation (Because Frustration Is a Math Blocker)

We can’t expect students to push through challenges if they’re spiraling into math-induced panic mode. When frustration kicks in, their brains hit the “I’m out!” button.

How to Do It:

  • Pause & Breathe: Before jumping to the “I CAN’T,” have students take a deep breath. Try “breathe in for 4, hold for 4, out for 4.” Simple, but it works.
  • Break It Down: Instead of tackling the whole problem at once, ask, “What’s one thing we DO know?” Small wins build confidence.
  • Normalize Struggle: Post a sign in your classroom: “Mistakes Mean You’re Learning.” Say it. Live it. Believe it! As Naruto says.

Set Micro-Goals (Because Big Goals Can Feel Overwhelming)

If a kid already feels lost, telling them “just keep practicing” is like saying, “just climb this mountain real quick.” Instead, break it into steps.

How to Do It:

  • Instead of “Get better at multiplication,” set a goal like: “Practice a doubling/halving strategy.”
  • Use progress charts so students can SEE their growth. 
  • Celebrate the small wins! Even if they only got one more right than last time—that’s growth!

Remind them “If you can memorize every single lyric to that TikTok song, you can 100% remember a few math strategies.” 
Honestly research shows long term memory is activated when we leverage different modalities in our lessons. It’s how the brain learns math.

Shift from Performance to Progress (Because Speed Ain’t Everything)

Fluency is about thinking efficiently, not racing to the answer. The goal isn’t to turn kids into human calculators—it’s to help them use numbers flexibly.

How to Do It:

  • Replace timed tests with strategy-based challenges (ex: “How many ways can you solve 12 × 8?”).
  • Instead of praising fast answers, celebrate smart strategies: “Ooooh, I love how you broke that down!”
  • Remind them that even adults use tools like calculators and sticky notes—real math is about knowing how to approach problems, not just getting the answer instantly.

 Teach Self-Talk (Because Their Inner Voice Matters More Than You Know)

The way kids talk to themselves about math shapes their experience with it. If they constantly say, “I can’t do this,” their brain believes it. Time to switch up the self-talk game.

How to Do It:

  • Teach “I can” statements: Instead of “I don’t get it,” try “I don’t get it YET, but I can figure this out.”
  • Have students write down one math strength (even if it’s “I’m good at counting on my fingers” – that’s a start!).
  • Encourage students to talk to themselves like they’d talk to a friend. Would they tell a friend, “You’re dumb at math”? No? Then don’t say it to yourself either!

Emphasize- “You wouldn’t let your best friend talk trash about you, so don’t let your brain do it either!”

Coaching Math Mindsets for the Win

At the end of the day, teaching math fluency isn’t just about numbers—it’s about helping kids believe they can figure things out. When we shift from just teaching math to coaching their mindset, we create students who are not only fluent in math but confident in life.

So, here’s your challenge: What’s one small move you can try this week? Whether it’s shifting self-talk, celebrating small wins, or breaking down frustration, pick one and run with it.

Oh, and if you want more strategies like these, check out my Figuring Out Fluency series, (Book 1) (Book 2) where we make fluency engaging, empowering, and (most importantly) actually make sense.

And if you want more math mindset strategies, grab my Guide For Teachers To Help Students With Growth Mindset